4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, 5 and said, “for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (NIV)
Many caregivers are a husband and wife team. The relationship you have built together should not change when you become caregivers. You will need to keep that person, for whom you are caring, from coming between you and your spouse.
I don’t understand why this happens. My mother-in-law would tell me she loved the dinner I made. Then she told my husband she did not like the meal. Here is the important point. My husband answered, “Then you need to talk with her about that.” Do not allow yourself to become a messenger in the middle. You also should not make decisions that involve your spouse without checking with them first. Unilateral decisions regarding a parent, or other loved one, may cause friction that can be avoided.
The best communication you can have is a group discussion. Gather together all the members of the household. Talk about the role of each one and how you want communication to flow. This will lay the groundwork to maintain harmony and the loving environment you can all enjoy.
Father in heaven, I thank you for the bonded relationship You blessed when I got married. May I always remember to put my marriage first. May this household have open, honest, and healthy communication. Let us not hurt one another by word or deed. Thank You for being our Guide. In Jesus name I pray, amen.