12 Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them. For this is the Law and the Prophets. (NKJV)
In an often paraphrased verse, this is the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
Sometimes your frustrations can mount with your loved ones’ ways. When I would take my mother-in-law to the grocery store it became quite an affair. She needed a scooter which she drove up and down every aisle. She needed to see everything, because she might miss something that was not on her list. Her list appeared to be a secret. I would ask her what she was looking for and her answers were given by dribs and drabs. Now that meant backtracking for all the items missed the first time around. Instead of wanting help she would get out of the scooter to reach things on her own. I should have allowed her to do that. It was what she wanted. I would just keep safety in mind. That is how I would want to be treated. I needed to keep that in mind to honor her with respect. That meant carefully choosing my words, my tone of voice, and having patience.
Your loved one may have actions that cause you to want to take over, to push in. Things are just easier to do yourself. If harm can come to your loved one, certainly, you need to take over that chore. Otherwise, pause a moment to ask yourself, “how would I want to be treated if I were in their shoes.”
Father, thank You for sending Jesus, the living Word. He wrote the owner’s manual for my life, to follow His instruction. Teach me to treat everyone, especially those I care for, and with whom I can become upset, as I want to be treated. In Jesus name I pray amen.