10 Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom. (NIV)
You can’t take it with you, but you can use it while you are here. Use your mind and the gifts God has given you. The Bible says do what you are doing with all your might.
I know so much is involved in caring for someone. My mother-in-law needed cataract surgery. It was explained to her as being relatively routine with positive outcomes. As the caregiver, I was told there were a few eye drops involved. It turned out to be not quite so simple. Here is what I learned from that experience.
The first step of wisdom for caretakers is knowing you can not do it alone. That means, you need God in the picture. Be ready, because He will send people to help you. Well, I knew I couldn’t give myself eye drops let alone someone else. Here’s where help came to the rescue. My good friend volunteered to let me give her eye drops to practice.
Leading up to the surgery there was the exam by her primary care physician, and a cardiac clearance needed from her heart doctor. A pre-admission phone call from the hospital nurse and a call to the operating room to find out when the surgery was to take place and the requirements for preparation at home.
The second step of wisdom for caretakers in preparation is follow a plan by making a checklist. And, you should make one for following surgery too. There were more, very specific, eye drops. There was a schedule explained in the operating room by a hurried nurse who was filling my ears with instructions. She was saying, “but, it’s all written down right here. Sign the papers and your mother-in-law is good to go. Here is the wheelchair for transportation.”
The third step of wisdom is write instructions down so you can understand them yourself. Don’t be intimidated by other people who are caring for your loved one. Remember you are the one taking them home. You are, probably, not a trained clinician. Simply ask people to slow down, and repeat.
The fourth step of the caretaker wisdom is find out who to call if there is a problem or question and get their phone number!
Father, you know I have complex situations to handle. You know someone else is counting on me. Please give me the skills to carry out the work You have for me. Show me the people I need who will help me do my best. I will give You the glory, knowing what You are able to do. In Jesus name I pray, amen.