4 But if any widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show piety at home and to repay their parents; for this is good and acceptable before God. (NIV)
Piety is devotion. Children and grandchildren what are you devoted to? God is speaking to you. He is lining up your priorities. They begin with your own family. Is there some activity you love and are devoted to? Maybe you have even found a way to work that pastime into a ministry.
For example, I like to quilt. There are numerous charitable organizations asking for quilts all the time. When I give my quilts away I minister to others. My devotion to quilting can be pleasing to God, but not at the expense of my family.
You have to choose how you to spend your time. God says in this verse take care of the widow. He is directing where you place your piety. Your family must be provided for before you look outside the home to others in need. Though that need may be great, charitable work can consume family time. First, repay your parents for all they have done for you. This is pleasing to God.
When you have taken care of your family, find something you love to do. You can use your talents to serve others. Everything will ultimately serve God when you are in obedience to Him.
Father, thank You for my family. I love them. Sometimes I put myself first even in my volunteering. Please help me remember to put You first. I will then serve my family. I can then help others and be acceptable in Your sight. In Jesus name I pray, amen.